Donnie Darko.. what a blast from the past. I too often wonder why I am here… and specifically in this place. My aunt, truly one of my best friends was not doing well after the passing of my uncle. Her health had deteriorated to the point I felt she should not live alone. So the hunt for a new house began with an attached apartment so she could be close but still have her own space. My wife, son and I moved the 90 minutes away to what we felt was the best house/situation for her. Then COVID hit… then she got cancer and ultimately passed before she could move in with us. Now we have that fully furnished apartment that we primarily use for visitors. I am grateful to be where I am but I can’t help but ask why… maybe in this crazy world we live in with $3500 rents it’s best I have an apartment for my son until he’s able to afford a house. Who knows how the world will look then? Bubble tunnels of my possible directions in life would certainly be nice to see exactly where my choices will lead before it’s too late. As for a fourth theme I feel is discussed in Donnie Darko, I think it could be mortality. I have always been afraid of death despite the faith I have in there being an afterlife. The loss of my aunt, again, one of my absolute best friends, has honestly made me much less afraid of death because when my time does come, I will be in the same place as her. It’s interesting how those feelings have transitioned my fears into more of an apprehension of how I get to the other side rather than simply not being here anymore. I did not expect that. I am comforted in the prospect of that loss becoming a reunification. Then again there is what I would be leaving behind.. my wife, my son, grandkids one day but again, there would be reunification one day as well. It’s definitely thought provoking.
Thanks so much for replying Jim! It's been a long time since I've seen you in Avon, it almost feels like that was another life. Thanks so much for sharing some of your story and thoughts here. Your situation sounds tough man, but you are not alone with those thoughts on mortality, that's for sure. I too wonder if/when reunification will happen... I'd give up almost anything just to spend another hour with my Dad!
It’s been longer outside of grade school than in at this point, haha. I had my fair share of run-ins with teachers as well as I’m sure you remember. At least I’ve put some of my adversarial nature to good use in fighting insurance fraud and arguing with attorneys on just how hurt their client got. :D It’s very hard to believe and basically another life for sure. Life out here in Arizona has been great, don’t get me wrong, it’s just that aspect of why am I here after putting in so much effort to have my aunt not be here. She is very missed. I’m so sorry about your dad too. Way too young.
I remember man, but it's wonderful to see how well you are doing! Thank you again for sharing your story about your aunt and I appreciate the condolences, my Dad was a good man!
Donnie Darko.. what a blast from the past. I too often wonder why I am here… and specifically in this place. My aunt, truly one of my best friends was not doing well after the passing of my uncle. Her health had deteriorated to the point I felt she should not live alone. So the hunt for a new house began with an attached apartment so she could be close but still have her own space. My wife, son and I moved the 90 minutes away to what we felt was the best house/situation for her. Then COVID hit… then she got cancer and ultimately passed before she could move in with us. Now we have that fully furnished apartment that we primarily use for visitors. I am grateful to be where I am but I can’t help but ask why… maybe in this crazy world we live in with $3500 rents it’s best I have an apartment for my son until he’s able to afford a house. Who knows how the world will look then? Bubble tunnels of my possible directions in life would certainly be nice to see exactly where my choices will lead before it’s too late. As for a fourth theme I feel is discussed in Donnie Darko, I think it could be mortality. I have always been afraid of death despite the faith I have in there being an afterlife. The loss of my aunt, again, one of my absolute best friends, has honestly made me much less afraid of death because when my time does come, I will be in the same place as her. It’s interesting how those feelings have transitioned my fears into more of an apprehension of how I get to the other side rather than simply not being here anymore. I did not expect that. I am comforted in the prospect of that loss becoming a reunification. Then again there is what I would be leaving behind.. my wife, my son, grandkids one day but again, there would be reunification one day as well. It’s definitely thought provoking.
Thanks so much for replying Jim! It's been a long time since I've seen you in Avon, it almost feels like that was another life. Thanks so much for sharing some of your story and thoughts here. Your situation sounds tough man, but you are not alone with those thoughts on mortality, that's for sure. I too wonder if/when reunification will happen... I'd give up almost anything just to spend another hour with my Dad!
It’s been longer outside of grade school than in at this point, haha. I had my fair share of run-ins with teachers as well as I’m sure you remember. At least I’ve put some of my adversarial nature to good use in fighting insurance fraud and arguing with attorneys on just how hurt their client got. :D It’s very hard to believe and basically another life for sure. Life out here in Arizona has been great, don’t get me wrong, it’s just that aspect of why am I here after putting in so much effort to have my aunt not be here. She is very missed. I’m so sorry about your dad too. Way too young.
I remember man, but it's wonderful to see how well you are doing! Thank you again for sharing your story about your aunt and I appreciate the condolences, my Dad was a good man!
Anytime, you’re welcome. :)